优雅的世界

职业规划很重要参加过面试的人总会遇到这样一个问题。

“请问你的职业规划是怎样的？

”这样一个看似平淡的问题通常却暗藏杀机，一不留神就有可能与这份工作SAY GOODBYE。

当然，这个问题是不可能有一份万能的答复可以让所有面试官满意的。

一切都得因人而异，因环境而异，因行业而异。

假使这问题瘫在宋叔叔面前，他指定会蹭着后脑勺左右环顾，最后上下打量一番主考官，腾的站起来：你丫脑袋被门夹过吧？！

职业规划与人生目标有着莫大的关联。

某种意义上职业规划决定着这辈子追求的东西能不能实现，人生目标则又影响着职业规划的方向与（我靠，我可不可以不要这么说教- -#）。

没有职业规划，人生目标总该有吧，来看看宋叔叔的——确实很明了、很简单：有车有房，有儿有女，有事有业，田园生活。

目前的状况是：有车有房，有儿有女算是达标了；有事有业，算是古惑仔中阿南甚至山鸡的地位，对于一个40+岁的胖男人来说顶多是个差强人意；与世无争就更别提了，吃这口饭如果做到这步就全废了。

所以从他世外桃源般的“终极追求”来看，他要么是浪费了半辈子的青春，要么就是制订的人生目标太离谱。

老婆整天像怨妇一样把他撵下床，女儿恨不得有人帮自己砍死他，大佬的弟弟视他为眼中钉肉中刺，自己每天梦到让人从背后捅，岁月不饶人，原本想再捞“最后一笔”为自己正名的宋叔叔幡然醒悟，也许现在能够适时地退出，才能让自己后半辈子养儿育女快活自在，正所谓“职业易改，目标难移”。

男人就怕入错行！

想这样干干净净全身而退，宋叔叔你有没有搞错。

（真怀疑那些个金盆洗手的能有几个真的把自己洗干净了的）看，认栽了吧……============================抹去若干剧情============================反正经过这么一折腾，宋叔叔总算吃上白豆腐——“干干净净”重新做人，只是这次的“干干净净”与先前的意义不同，意义至多算是PB了而已。

于是暴力签约，红绿灯口的昏睡，对小弟的大打大骂，对医生骂你个B养的，一个人捧着泡面吸溜吸溜等等统统回归……唯一的变化是现在人均居住面积达到了空前的高度。

亲人从加拿大寄回了录像，蹲在地上吸溜吸溜的宋叔叔笑了，哭了，摔了，骂了，这一刻他终于明白，这操蛋的日子，一切又回到了原点……

一个中年男人，事业不上不下，家庭不平静，居住环境破落，下级办事不力上级对自己的成绩虎视眈眈，想给自己孩子感受到父亲的温暖却让孩子对自己越来越讨厌。

一个黑帮小头目，没有像古惑仔一样支手遮天，猛龙过江，龙争虎斗，胜者为王，他没有好身材，他没有一身炫目的纹身，他甚至会在等红灯的时候睡着，对大哥忠心却鄙视二哥，但最后都被他失手干掉了，想让家庭生活得好一点，最后却换来妻子孩子都想离开他。

仁九，一个普通又特殊的父亲，他像所有的男人一样想尽到父亲和丈夫的义务但他又有着一个特殊的职业。

他努力想摆脱自己的身份，洗白后去到自己想象中的“优雅世界”——得到家人的尊敬，送女儿去加拿大，和老婆住上大房子。

他不能说是善良，但他会埋掉死鹿的尸体。

影片从很多细节去描写仁九对女儿的爱，给老师钱让老师关照女儿，在看到女儿希望他死去的日记后依然保护着女儿请求警察不要让她去警局，等了30分钟才买到女儿爱吃的牛肉丸子，哪怕自己吃方便面也不去动留给女儿的丸子，蹲监狱时不想女儿去看他。

最后仁九钱包里的照片还是感动了女儿，自己也住进了渴望已久的大房子，可女儿妻子都不在身边了，自己得病却无人问津，看着女儿从加拿大寄过来的录像带，回放录像带里看到的彩虹，看着他们的欢笑与自己毫不相关，看着自己的幸福就像彩虹那样空洞，他哭着摔了碗。

亚洲的黑帮片已经在香港人手里拍到了极致，可是这次韩国人没有抄香港剩饭，从另一个角度拍出了被香港黑帮电影忽视的黑帮成员的家庭生活。

无论什么职业，中年男人中始终不缺乏姜仁九这样的角色，他们为自己的信仰努力着，时不时的为这个其实并不优雅的世界增添一记疲惫的叹息。

Page 1 A man falls asleep when waiting for the red light in the street at night.Page 2 The man is very careful with his car as he cleans a scratch on his car door. (USING DETAIL TO MAKE A STORY AND PERFORMANCE BELIEVABLE) He enters a factory and finds that his aide not only beats a man, but also wasn’t able to get the signature on the document. So he has to do the dirty work himself.Page 5 On the way, the victim tries to escape during a chance he got when vomiting outside the car. The man feels his life ridiculous watching his men chasing the victim. (TITLE CARD: AN ELEGANT WORLD)Page 6 The next morning, his wife wakes him up and forces him to go to the parents meeting with her. Their housing situation is not very ideal as they don’t have running water all the time.Page 8 During the parents meeting, when being asked what he does, the man doesn’t know what to say. The teacher asks if there is anything wrong with her family as her grades are suffering.Page 9 So the man has no choice but to invite the teacher for a smoke at the man’s room.The dad’s solution is to give the teacher money. (But later we know that he gave the teacher stripper coupons.) His relationship with his daughter gets so heated on the way home that he almost drives into a couple of pedestrians.Page 12 In order to investigate who is behind the signature violence, an ugly man meets the dad to straight things out. When they mention an incident about their childhood crush on a girl, they got into a water fight which tells the audience that they have a long and naughty relationship. But in the end, the ugly man threatens the dad of his family. (PHYSICAL OPPORTUNITY: GOT A THREAT FROM HIS CHILDHOOD FRIEND BECAUSE OF HIS FORCING SIGNATURE PRACTICE)Page 16 Older brother is not happy with young brother about his job performance although the young one tries to celebrate the older brother’s birthday.Page 18 The dad goes to the real estate agency trying to find a big house. (EMOTIONAL OPPORTUNITY)Page 20 On a funeral, the dad meets the younger brother, who is unhappy about not being able to receive the cut of a deal from the dad. But the older brother is very taken by the dad and the contrast is obvious and very irritating for the younger brother. (CHANGE OF PHYSICAL PLAN IN THE ORG)Page 24 The daughter receives a package from the teacher to his dad, which is a book about how to be a dad. And they find out the fact that he gave the teacher stripper coupons. The family is very angry with him. (CHANGE OF EMOTIONAL PLAN WITH THE FAMILY)Page 26 The dad goes to a construction side trying to solve a problem of delay. When the negotiation fails, the dad asks his brothers to come to fight. The fight becomes funny when a bulldozer enters the chaos. And it ends when the dad is beaten on the head and is sent to the hospital. His wife gives him an ultimatum but he claims that the family doesn’t have enough money for children’s education.Page 33 The dad negotiates again with the construction with agreement. Then he goes to look at new houses again for his family. He pays for the deposit of the villa on the spot. He buys his daughter’s favorite food for her but she doesn’t want it. So he ends up alone at home with nothing else to do but to look around the house. Then he finds his daughter’s diary and finds that she is very ashamed of him and wants him die.Page 38 When the daughter comes home, both of them are very disappointed at each other. The dad is so drunk that he wants his daughter is kill him. When the mother didn’t pick up the phone, the daughter has no choice but to call the police. So the dad is taken to the police station and they find him with multiple criminal record. An old policeman humiliates him in front of his daughter, who feels bad about everything. When finally back at home, the wife wants him out because she doesn’t want bad influence on their daughter anymore.Page 45 The dad is barely escape an assassination attempt in a convenient store, which becomes a breaking news on TV. The wife and daughter is deeply concerned. The younger brother comes to see the dad coming out of the prison and tells him that he is no longer in charge of the construction project because of the incident. When he comes back home, of course the wife and daughter are already gone and the real estate agent calls him for the next payment and he promises to pay.Page 55 The dad goes hunting with the older brother, but he doesn’t have solutions. Only to give him a deer to bury. When the dad finds out from his childhood friend that it was the younger brother who hires people to kill him, he goes to beat him up only to be stopped by the older brother. (POINT OF NO RETURN)Page 60 When his childhood friend tries to convince the dad to betrayal his boss, the dad says no because it was his boss who gave him and his family the apartment to stay. (POINT OF NO RETURN) The next morning, when he wakes up alone and washes his face with soap, the water suddenly stopped.Page 64 The dad goes to his in-laws’ place to talk to his wife, who tells him that he wants a divorce, which absolutely destroys him.Page 69 The dad comes back and visits the younger brother at the hospital. The dad wants out and makes peace with him. But of course the younger brother still wants to kill him and during the chaos, the dad kidnaps the younger brother in his car. The dad calls his friend for ideas and they decide to blackmail the boss with his brother. (EVERYTHING IS LOST) When waiting for a red light, the younger brother tries to escape and he ends up in the trunk of the car.Page 77 The dad changes his mind of blackmail and calls his boss for a private meeting. (EPIPHANY) But he is spot by the bad guys and a car chase scene ensues. During the chase, his car collides with a bus but he barely escapes. (PHYSICAL CLIMAX)Page 82 Only then did he realize that the younger brother has already died in the truck. Then the boss comes and confrontation ensues. The dad has no choice but to kill the boss. (EMOTIONAL CLIMAX) At the hospital, the wife and daughter come to meet his childhood friend who waits at the emergency room.Page 91 The wife comes to see him out of the hospital and into the prison. His friend and family hasn’t given up on him. But in order to raise money for his daughter’s education, he sold himself into his friend’s organization.Page 96 The dad comes out of the prison and moves the family into a big new house. But his wife and daughter are all going to Canada.Page 100 One year later, he goes to the doctor alone and he is very unhappy about the doctor’s attitude. He goes back to do what he does best: forcing signatures. As everybody is celebrating the success of the signature, he is sullen with beer alone and beats the guy who insists him singing.Page 104 The dad receives a video recording of the family’s life in Canada. At first, he is very happy about what he is seeing but soon he starts to feel bad about himself and his instant noodle that he is eating. Eventually he breaks down crying and breaks his instant noodle bowl.Page 107 In the end, he has to clean it up himself.

这部电影类型被标为喜剧片，却是从头到尾都没有一次开心的笑过。

一个黑社会的中层，心存善念的中年人，有一个美丽的老婆和一双儿女，多年的打打杀杀并没有换来殷实的家底，依旧住在总是停水的廉租房内，同时，也为了供在海外的儿子上学不能从黑帮离开。

连发小也是和他一样，只是不在一个帮派。

女儿长大了，对父亲的工作不理解。

仁九被老师叫到学校，却以自己的方式试图解决---给老师送舞厅优惠券，希望关注他的女儿。

被退回后，也是自我调侃，自己还可以去用。

排队等候很长时间买了女儿爱吃的牛肉试图缓解亲子关系也是徒劳。

面对黑帮错综复杂的关系，仁久只想挣一笔钱，换一幢心仪的房子后退出这纷乱的世界，与家人过田园生活，幸福的生活在一起。

然而，理想很美丽，现实很骨感，这只是他个人的想法。

既然已踏入这个肮脏的世界，没有回头路可以选择。

这时，已经厌倦了这种生活的妻子选择带女儿一起移民，和儿子生活在一起。

在一系列的误打误撞和发小的暗中帮助下，仁久在黑帮的位置更牢固了，越想离开偏又离不开。

最后，仁久终于把当初看上的房子买下了，只不过是一个人生活，吃着泡面，看着妻子寄回的录像带傻笑。

仁久理想中的田园生活已经实现了，只是那个优雅的世界不在韩国，那里没有他可以存在的地方。

他看着笑着哭着，思念着远方的亲人，摔了手中的泡面；但是不一会儿又找来抹布一个人收拾，在窗外落日余晖的照耀下，是那般的孤单与苍凉。

喜和悲都来源于生活，而喜更是建立在悲之上，所以说悲剧的最高境界就是喜剧吧。

如果体会不到导演带来的冷幽默，其实片名改为《失落的世界》更为合适。

我选用了一个07年烂俗的句型:史上最XX的XX做了一个小学语文的题目，填空选择：A矬，黑社会；B衰，大哥；这两个选项我斗争了好久，丝毫不亚于贾岛当年“僧推月下门”和“僧敲月下门”的“推敲”之争。

仁九是够衰的，也算个大哥。

老罗说得好，你如果骂我，我就很局促，因为你没骂到点子上；如果你夸我，我就很扭捏，因为你夸得还不够。

大哥有一呼百应，万人拥戴的，这点仁九还不够格。

倒霉的也有，今天黄袍加身，明天就被剁成了碎肉，这么一看仁九还算蛮幸运的了。

那这样看来仁九可能是史上最矬的黑社会了，他没有飙着引擎轰轰的 MR2，而是像个杀猪发家爆发户一样开了辆大奔，最矬的是居然还是商务车；他没有支手遮天，猛龙过江，龙争虎斗，胜者为王，忠心耿耿但天天不得不在大哥和二哥之间夹缝中求生存，最矬的是二者最后都被他失手干掉了；他没有人人都称为“太子”，一身黑西装戴墨镜的二世祖。

而是有个四眼的加拿大乖乖仔，最矬的是还有个一模一样的女儿；他没有动不动就光着个膀子，显摆显摆自己身上纹的龙啊虎啊。

而是穿个大白背心，一身赘肉的在家干家务，最矬的是还干不好，干啥啥不行，吃啥啥不剩；他没有天天混迹于 PUB，群美环绕，左拥右抱。

而是巴巴的跟在老婆屁股后面回娘家，最矬的是还要一个人睡旅店；他没有一帮出生入死，刀里来剑里去的兄弟。

而是有个长相委琐，还动不动就摔打起来的发小，最矬的是经常还占不到便宜……这就是宋康昊的仁九，你可能小时候跟他一起在烂泥里扭打过，你可能跟他在同一家小面馆吃过面，你可能开家长会的时候看见他和老师嬉皮笑脸勾肩搭背。

但你永远见不到他威风八面，刀光剑影。

这就是宋康昊优雅的世界，仿佛你就身在其中，他笑的时候你巴不得凑上前去掐一掐他憨厚的大胖脸，他哭的时候令你只想不声不响的靠过去搂一搂他的肩膀。

宋大叔也有可能是史上最矬的一个影帝了，那张大饼脸在16：9的宽屏时代简直是电影史上的一个奇观。

组委员会打电话通知他颁奖晚会着装要求的时候，他有可能正是睡眼惺忪，一嘴牙膏沫子，对了，不能少了那件大白背心。

看了一眼英文片名，show must go on. 嗯，kinda got u. 1. 我们每个人都在自己的世界里自圆其说，但世界与世界相交处便尽是煎熬。

我们都无法深刻的理解别人，却渴望被人深刻的理解。

其实承认最终的最终我们还是孤身一人的时候，还是有一种惨烈的淡然。

就像某个瞬间你发觉自己未曾爱过任何人，不过是把你生活最肤浅的一面拿来与人共享一阵。

2. 我爸现在也会翻我小时候的照片自言自语，会讲我小时候的趣事然后一个人傻笑，每次从北京回来都会给我做一锅红烧肉。

我很少提我爸，除了说他在摩根上班= =大概是因为太过平常，所以才如此无人可替。

3. 该狠心的时候就要狠心，操了全世界人，就清净了。

生活是个陷阱，它勾引你与它纠缠不清，你心软了，放弃了，觉得万一一切都有意义呢，你就等着被操死吧。

我太喜欢结尾的设定了。

无情才最是安慰人。

整部电影处处充满了生活的无奈，结尾处录像带里妻儿的优雅、欢快的生活，与坐在电视机前捧着泡面、常常喝酒、饮食不规律、刚刚被查出患了糖尿病的仁久的生活，所形成的鲜明的对比，更完美的诠释了《优雅的世界》这个题目：电影讲述的不是一个优雅的世界，而是创造优雅的背后，是一个不那么优雅，甚至辛酸、甚至猥琐的世界。

最后，仁久摔掉泡面，走出屏幕，却又回来蹲在地上收拾被摔碎的碗和地上的泡面，是不是隐喻了生活总归是要这样，继续的不优雅下去……我给这个结局打三星，还有一星是打给宋康昊的。

硕大的电视播放的妻儿在加拿大的家庭录像在画面正中间，仁九自己在画面的角落里孤独的收拾着地板……不错，眼前一亮

经济学一直在告诉我，这是一门关于资源如何优化配置的学问。

可是我老不信。

我不相信资源是稀缺的。

这个电影就告诉我们，资源无论何时都是稀缺的，配置的办法从来不是优雅的。

猛狗帮最大的收入是包工程，通过暴力手段从承包商手里把工程抢过来。

工程就那么多，你搞不定别人就要搞走，再说，帮派里也不是所有人都会赚钱，只有少部分人会赚钱。

能给组织赚钱，就能建立资历，大哥的小弟不怎么会赚钱，大哥就算想把位置传给小弟，也怕底下兄弟不服。

只能暗地里帮助小弟搞掉姜仁九。

不过大哥太仁慈了，他以为姜仁九知难而退，放弃工程，放弃晋升，老老实实在帮派里呆着养老就是最好的选择了，毕竟大哥当年待他如自己的孩子一样。

他多少年没有了解过姜仁九了，他知道最近几年姜仁九因为家庭的问题要崩溃了吗？

姜仁九不放弃工程的原因和当年他加入帮派的原因是一样的，要给家庭成员更大的生存空间，他中年危机了，需要买一套豪宅送给妻子笼络关系，需要送女儿出国改善与女儿的关系。

每一个家庭成员在社会上都有 一个生态位，都要占用一部分生存资源，这资源从哪儿来？

就姜仁九的一家来说，只能靠姜仁九以自己擅长的方式从社会上赚回来。

他想让自己的生活优雅起来，想让自己关心的人的生活优雅起来，他最终知道了自己真正想要的东西是什么，也知道了如何才能得到自己想要的东西，所以他不能洗手不干，只能继续这样干下去，直到死的那一天。

中年危机的发生，在于触及到了某个天花板。

姜仁九的行业天花板就是他所在的中层位置。

再往上就触碰到了核心利益，大哥的弟弟明显是接班人。

再往下，他保持现在的位置已经造成妻子跑到济州岛老家要跟他离婚，女儿想要他死，房子没有水压，真的洗手不干，老老实实去卖水果，儿子的学费怎么办？

灰溜溜从加拿大回来？

妻子铁定离婚。

所以，高尔夫球杆暴打大哥弟弟就是一种未来计划的拟定，干掉障碍，打破天花板。

最后两个障碍人物的死掉真的是意外吗？

那不过是想让结果更加顺理成章的一种合理曲折，不这么做，无法掩饰主角的正义光环，不这么做，如何跟家庭成员解释自己其实不是个坏人？

不这么做，又如何跟自己帮里的兄弟树立逼不得已却又合情合理上位的悲情形象？

奋斗了一整个电影，把自己搞成了糖尿病，换了一所大房子，妻子儿子女儿在国外过着优雅的生活，自己啃着方便面在悲催的世界中哭。

不过比起来坐在没有水的房子里啃着方便面没有妻子儿女美好视频看来讲，确实是一种进步。

宋康昊的演技真心好，剧透剧透为家庭撑起一个优雅的世界却被排斥，因为他是会打架的黑社会，是出门害怕会被别人从背后捅一刀的黑社会。

不小心看到女儿日记却看到女儿希望他被流氓捅死，自己一个人坐在客厅喝酒，女儿报警后还护着她让她先回去。

电影中若有若无的孤独感，不被理解，被人追一个人杀后回到家里黑漆漆的房间没有人，自己吃面。

监狱里有一段妻子问他会洗手不干吗，这里他是经过深思熟虑的才会说出下次见回避了这个问题，所以出来的时候黑社会的朋友来接他来了，和女儿却没来。

影片最后四十多岁却得了糖尿病，医生简单的回答，他反问就这些吗？

没有别的要说的吗？

没有别的要嘱咐的吗。

因为孤独所以哪怕是生病也想让别人多说两句。

买来了大房子妻子和女儿却去了加拿大，自己一个人在空荡荡的房间里吃着泡面，看着从加拿大发过来的DVD，笑了却哭了，把碗打碎了还是自己一个人收拾。

电视机女儿的日常生活和他形成对比。

所谓优雅，是因为有人在背后狼狈的付出。